Comments on: This blog needs an enema!

By: Shawn

Shawn — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 20:46:03 +0000

BBB, I’m a long time reader (2 years, since I started bear tanking) and haven’t ever posted on your site, but Congrats on letting go of your burden.

I’ve quit wow a few times because of burnout, losing steam, etc, but have always managed to find my way back. I enjoy reading your blog and hope that you continue writing.

Thanks BBB

By: Ëmerald

Ëmerald — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 18:10:12 +0000

Here’s hoping you’ll still drop us a line from time to time to fill us in on the workings of the Butt.

First time commenting here, and from a fellow Minnesotan Beardrood, here’s hoping you find what you’re looking for.

(Even though it’ll be sad to see you go. /cry)

By: Ronjo

Ronjo — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 17:07:50 +0000

My first guild went through something very much like this. I remember very well the last night of the guild’s existence. The guild leader had been called up to Iraq and his wife was left with all the work. Someone in the guild tried to ‘help” and began dragging the guild in the direction he wanted it to go. The guild leader /gkicked him from Iraq then a few minutes later said that he and his wife were going to dissolve the guild. There was a passing out of goods from the vault and two new guilds arose from the old one. I was in both of the new guilds for a time but eventually I left the server all together, moving to the server my sons had chosen. I left an alt on the old server and run some holiday events with a few of my old friends. Strangely enough WoW turned out to be a lot like Real Life, imagine that. Congratulations on your choice Bear, all the best to you and yours.

By: Cornfedhick

Cornfedhick — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 16:58:19 +0000

When you have something in your life that is just not quite right, it can fester and bleed over into so many other areas until its affecting your entire life. Congrats BBB on doing whats right for you and your family.

By: Ozzard

Ozzard — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 16:02:02 +0000

Welcome back to your centre – enjoy the freedom!

By: jtrack

jtrack — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:43:45 +0000

OH BOY!

Your experience just goes to show the very same lesson that slammed me in the head within the last few months. That is, for every person you add to your guild, you gain another set of opinions, feelings, problems. As a guild leader myself, I so much desire to be the guy that just “chills” in the corner and does whatever, but you never get that opportunity. What amazes me more than anything is how few people are actually willing to lead anything and yet they look to you to solve their problems… that is… provide them raid, provide them activities, provide them entertainment where they aren’t willing to assist.

I think the key to stay “disconnected” is staying away from guild managerial roles. Just be a guy that logs in occasionally and does whatever. Otherwise, you are stuck.
.-= jtrack´s last blog ..You Wanna Join My Guild =-.

By: Bernie

Bernie — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:15:22 +0000

Whether you play WoW as much or post WoW related information just keep posting. I for one just enjoy reading the information avalanche that rolls out of your head. I look forward to every new post.

By: jealouspirate

jealouspirate — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 13:12:45 +0000

Congratulations to you and Cassie for your decision, which sounds like the right move. I admire you both for your priorities and how you’re committed to them.

By: Angie

Angie — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 11:45:15 +0000

I’m really glad to hear about this. It must be such a huge weight off both of your shoulders. I had a very similar experience with a very active roleplay guild I ran for half of a year. I found myself spending more and more time online to deal with guild responsibilities, it slowly began to feel like a chore instead of a game, and I realized it had become an issue when I actually turned down a date with a guy I had had my eye on for a long time to deal with guild drama. My brain went “OMFG you did NOT just do that!” and then I promptly passed over leadership to my second in command on the following day, after which I took a good four month break from WoW altogether. Recent I started playing again and transferred my only level 80 to the best roleplay realm I could find, and I never plan on taking on any sort of guild leadership again. Nevah evah! So, I know how you feel, and congrats. Achievement Unlocked: Catharsis

By: suxxy

suxxy — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 09:38:40 +0000

Yup, it wouldn’t be the same if SD’s went off in another direction with other leadership.
As I told you in guild chat today BBB, SD’s was never a group of friends for me, it was/is family. And like my RL family, as much as we squabble & bitch & moan & fight & laugh & cry together, at the end of the day, or ten years down the track after not seeing each other, we’re family & you can’t take that back.
Even if you want to dis-own some individuals you just can’t.
Divorce, sure, but then you’ve got in-laws & out-laws and distant cousins… still family.
Don’t know about you and the military buddies, BBB, but friends don’t work that way for me… family does.
To all the SD’s out there past & present /hugs always.